"Who put me in charge?"

"I'm afraid of becoming the same kind of parent that I had. I don't want that for my kids."

"How do I become a good parent when I've never seen any positive examples of parenting?"

"I wish kids came with an instruction manual."

Build the skills and mindset you need to change the negative family patterns that you learned as a child, to break cycles, and to build positive parenting skills. You ARE the adult in charge, like it or not, and you CAN be the parent your children need you to be.

In fact, you already are.

This place is a friendly guide for you on your parenting journey. Learn how to be The Adult in Charge in a way that's authentic, connected, and healed.



I feel like I have a reliable guide to help me take care of my family's well being and happiness."


Mamar L.


Hi, I’m Carrien


I've taught thousands of parents how to break the negative and abusive cycles of their childhood and give their children a safe loving home where they feel safe and can thrive. I've empowered them to parent with confidence, with connection, with understanding.

In the process, those parents have found healing and acceptance for their own selves.

I am now bringing these skills and lessons to the digital space, so parents everywhere can experience the transformation of positive and connected parenting, the healing that comes from love and acceptance.

My courses and coaching are designed to build the skills and mindset you need to create new healthy patterns in your family, to experience that you can break negative cycles, and be the parent for your children that your younger self needed and hoped for.